If you’ve been fantasizing about swinging and just don’t know how to get started, we’re here to help. After reading our tips for beginners you will see that adopting the swinger lifestyle is much easier than you thought.
1. Consider your reasons
When couples start talking about swinging together, it’s important that they discuss their reasons for adopting this new lifestyle. There may be healthy reasons, such as wanting to spice up your intimate life, and there may be unhealthy reasons, such as one partner simply wanting to appease the other. If you’re considering swingers as a way to mend a broken relationship, you may be disappointed. The swinger lifestyle is generally for strong, healthy couples looking for a bit of adventure. If this doesn’t sound like you, you might want to reconsider.
2. Talk about expectations
There are many options in the swing world; swinger parties and swinger clubs, swingers with other couples or people of the same sex. Chances are that you and your partner have some fantasies that you would like to perform together.
3. Set Some Ground Rules
An important step for beginners is to lay down some ground rules early on. For example, if you are both at a swinger party or club and one of you wants to leave early, is it okay for the other person to stay behind? Should they always be together in the same room? Are you comfortable seeing your partner be with someone of the same sex? No doubt, you probably have some preferences and expectations; be sure to talk about this from the beginning.
4. Create a Persona
Most swingers like to keep this part of their lives private, so they create personas to use online and at parties and clubs. Many swinger couples make up fake names and this is perfectly acceptable in the swinger world.
5. Meet online
One of the best places to find other swingers to connect with is online. The internet is full of adult dating sites where you can meet couples and individuals willing to meet or come over to your house. You and your partner simply create an attractive profile with photos and then start searching through member profiles. Strike up a dialogue with the people you care about and make a plan to meet up.
6. Consider your options
Once you find partners or people you are attracted to, set up a time to talk on the phone and then meet in person. It’s probably a good idea to meet just for drinks the first time, so you have a chance to get to know each other and schedule a second meeting. If you don’t feel a connection, be honest and move on.
7. Check out swing clubs
There are probably quite a few more swingers clubs in your area than you knew. A quick search online will let you know where they are and how to get involved. You can also ask other swingers you meet online on adult dating sites. Before you go, find out if the club is open to everyone or couples only. Also, find out if they have any special theme nights.
8. Try a swingers party
If you’re invited to a swinger party, here are a couple of things to keep in mind:
- Arrive on time
- smell and look good
- Don’t be pushy or unfriendly
- practice safe sex
9. Respect people’s privacy
When you meet another couple or person who swings, respect their right to privacy and don’t ask too many questions. Unless you have been given advanced permission, please do not take photos or record videos. Don’t take it personally if he doesn’t want to see you again. Many swingers want to remain as anonymous as possible.
10. Have fun
The swingers lifestyle should be fun and exciting. If you find that you are causing tension or drama in your relationship, just stop. This alternative lifestyle is not for everyone and should only be pursued by couples who are really having fun.