Marriage is one of the oldest institutions created by man. An old proverb says: “Marriages are made in heaven and consummated on Earth.” It is widely believed that God creates human beings in soul mates and that each one has a soul mate in this world. True love is about discovering your soul mate in this world. Therefore, for each person, there is a unique soul mate.and it is the destiny of the person to search for his/her soul mate.
The concept of a soul mate is quite romantic and interesting, as each person who falls in love feels that they have discovered their soul mate. Lovers believe that they are made for each other or that they are two bodies and one soul.
Thus, many times people refer to love as an act of union of souls.
However, not all love can lead to soul union, as only the souls of soul mates can unite. This concept is explained in the most beautiful way in the book “Brideby the world famous author Paulo Coelho in the following words
And when people think about reincarnation, they always come across a very difficult question: if there were so few people on the face of the Earth in the beginning, and now there are so many, where did all these new souls come from?
The answer is simple.
In certain reincarnations, we split in two. …Our souls split in two, and those new souls in turn become two and so, within a few generations, we are spread over much of the Earth… And that process of finding ourselves is called Love. Because when a soul divides, it always divides into a bad part et a female part.
This is how the Book of Genesis explains it: Adam’s soul split in two, and Eve was born from him.
in every life, we feel a mysterious obligation to find at least one of those soul mates. The Greater Love that separated you is pleased with the Love that unites you again.
It is for this reason that everyone seems to be taking care of the special person in their life who is the soul mate.
soul mate identification
The concept of a soul mate is so popular in the world that it can be found in practically all civilizations. The most difficult problem, however, seems to be the identification of the soul mate.
The feeling of love is the most popular method of finding the soul mate. When a man and a woman fall in love, their soul seems to unite and they behave like two bodies and one soul. In the book Brida, Paulo Coelho writes
You could tell your soul mate by the light in their eyes, and since time began, this has been how people have recognized their true love. The Moon Tradition used a different process: a kind of vision that showed a point of light over your Soulmate’s left shoulder.
People very sincerely try to find their soul mates for love. However, most people fall out of love sooner rather than later. Therefore, love is often called blind. Ambrose Bierce called love madness,
“Love is a temporary madness that is cured by marriage”.
The fact is that most people who find the deepest love in their loved one rarely maintain it throughout their lives, as evidenced by the rising divorce rates in the modern world.
Rising divorce rate
Most of the people face disappointment in their love when they soon find out that the person they loved is not their soul mate. This has led to rising divorce rates, especially in the Western world. According to Jennifer Baker of the Forestry Institute for Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, “50% of first marriages, 67% of second, and 74% of third marriages in the United States end in divorce..
Statistics, however, tell only part of the story, as most people are now so suspicious about the success of their marriage that they prefer to live there for years and even have children before marriage. Only when they are absolutely sure that they are in love do they decide to get married. However, the marriage soon ended in divorce, as statistics reveal.
Does it mean that most people can’t find their soul mate?
Or does it mean that there is something wrong with our perception of the soul mate?
We also wonder if soul mates really exist or is it just an illusion created by our ancestors so people don’t get divorced believing their marriages are made in heaven. So once you are married, it becomes a sin to divorce your spouse in many traditions. Since most people are afraid of committing sin, marriages survived in the past.
However, after the man began to choose his beloved when falling in love, he soon discovered that love does not really exist, except in romance novels or spiritual literature.
What the scriptures say about marriage
Marriage is one of humanity’s most secret institutions. In India, Hindu marriages are still solemnized using the mantras of the “Rig Veda”, the oldest scripture of humanity written more than three thousand years before the birth of Christ. In Hindu scriptures, marriages are considered unbreakable in this lifetime and go beyond the current lifetime up to seven lifetimes.
The institution of marriage in India has stood the test of time. Even in modern times when the western world is struggling to reduce divorce rates, in India the divorce rate is much lower than 1% despite having similar divorce provisions in the law that exist in the world. western.
The most interesting fact about Indian marriage is that about 90% of the marriages are “arranged” by the parents of the boy and girl rather than through falling in love. Most of the time, the guys haven’t even seen the girl. Even if they have seen each other, they can hardly know each other since they are in the presence of their parents and other family members for a very short time. However, almost all marriages survive and most couples fall in love during their lifetime.
The concept of love and marriage
To understand the design of love, one must refer to the Bible, which deals with the concept of love and marriage in its first chapter of Genesis (21-24).
Then the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he slept, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with meat. Then Jehovah God made a woman from the rib that he had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she will be called ‘woman,’
because she was taken from man.”
That is why a man will leave his father and mother, and will be united to his wife, and they will be one flesh.
Thus, nature has divided the human species into male and female. God in Indian scriptures is also called the universal soul (Paramatama) because He is the source of all the individual souls of the people. Therefore, in each person lives the same soul that is the soul of God, since no soul has its individual, independent existence.
The soul mate illusion
Therefore, it may be useless to search for a soul that is specially meant for the person, since all souls are the same. The only difference is that the soul of man and woman are complementary to each other just like the particles of protons and electrons that are equal and opposite to each other.
The connection between different souls is only through the World Soul or God that connects each person like a thread unites flowers to make a garland.
Hence the secret of love is in the love of God. Once a person loses faith in God, there is no way for him to maintain the connection with any other soul. That is why faith has emerged as the most important element to stay in love and marriage. it is well said “The family that prays together, stays together.”
Without God Without Love
It is said that love is God or God is love because love and God are two names of the same reality. The love that most people fall into is also real, since God has created the attraction between man and woman to fulfill his spiritual destiny. Only by the union of the bodies is a new life created. Similarly, due to the union of the soul, love is born.
Love, like every living being, is born and grows on its own. At first, love may be physical, but gradually it evolves into a state of mind and soul so that your ultimate destiny of being one with God can be realized.
It is for this reason that all love based on physical attractions begins to diminish unless the relationship of the spouses evolves from the physical stage to the stage of the mind and soul. The union of the body must grow to become the union of the mind, which means that lovers must become friends soon. Friends have little to no element of the physical component. Friendship has to gradually become spiritual when soul union is achieved between lovers. The union of the soul, then, has to become the spiritual union with God.
However, people do not accept the change in the nature of love as some people cannot reconcile the growth of their child. They feel the loss of physical desire as the loss of love, since they identify love with physical attraction.
This leads to the search for a new soul mate and the search continues until the end when they finally realize that there is no soul mate.
However, those who have faith gradually transform into the spiritual being along with their Twin Souls passing through the stage of body, mind, soul and spirit (God).
the true soul mate
The concept of a soul mate is real. However, there is no uniqueness in the soul mate since all people have the same soul that is part of God. Therefore, one can find his soul mate and his love in most people, as long as they have faith in God. The only way to stay in love is to have faith and accept love in all its forms such as lust, friendship and spirituality as the ultimate destiny of every soul is to become one with God. Physical love is only the beginning of the journey. The soul mate is someone who not only helps you reach your destiny, but also journeys together towards the realization of this density together.