One of the many challenges men have is deciding which positions to use when looting. The biggest fears are that the woman will get bored with “business as usual” and lose interest in sex as a result. So the question becomes, What are the best sexual positions?
The best way to explain this is to talk about what NOT to do. With that in mind, I’m now going to talk about the top five mistakes men make when it comes to sex positions, so you don’t keep making them.
Position 1 error: Imitating everything you see in a porn movie. This is probably the main reason why men fail with sexual positions. Inexperienced guys think porn is a good role model because they see studs banging beautiful girls and… well, they just don’t know any better. The problem is that the sexual positions in those kinds of movies are meant to show a good scene for the viewers, not to maximize the pleasure of the actors.
And in fact, one of the WORST positions for vaginal and clitoral stimulation is when the woman puts her ankles on your shoulders. With her pelvis bent so far back, she may feel pain in her cervix if you push too hard. It is also a position that exerts pressure. (If you ever get a chance to go backstage and watch an adult movie being made, you’ll see how quickly the mood fades when the actress keeps having to stop the scene to go to the bathroom.)
Position error 2: Trying too hard to keep your weight off the woman, in any position. For a woman, sex is a way to get closer to her man. She loves it when he leans against her lower thighs. So here’s a tip for you to try… The next time you have sex with your woman (ie while you’re having actual sex), put more of your weight on her. You see, during her sex, almost every woman enjoys feeling her man’s body pressed against her.
So how much weight should you put on it? Make it long enough that after she comes and the sexual frenzy wears off, your woman will tell you that she feels like she’s being kissed. Of course, do this within limits! If you are on top of her grinding her pubic bone for a long time, it can be painful for her.
But the bottom line is that many, many women like to be held down by at least some of the weight of the man. So save the chivalrous sex for the women of the royal family!
Position Mistake 3: Letting the woman do all the work when she’s on top. For virtually all women, sex is primarily a passive activity. So by being the immobile beta male, you destroy the whole purpose of sex for her, which is to open up to you to enter her body.
Error position 4: Being a coward. A lot of guys have read too many “Men are from Mars” books and think that women like it if you ask their permission for everything and let them take the lead. Be the alpha male and just “do it.” Flip it over, move it here and there. Be aggressive and even throw him around like a rag doll when he wants to change positions, and… he’ll LOVE it! And don’t worry about it. If something happens that the woman doesn’t like, she will let you know.
Position error 5: Thinking that more complicated positions are better. You don’t need to be upside down, hanging from a lamp and doing some crazy thing. Just be normal. An old standby like missionary (man on top, woman lying on her back) may be the best sexual position.
Complicated positions are just frustrating for everyone and often kill the mood because there is too much “where should I put my arm?”… and not enough “let’s have fun exploring”.