Who would have ever thought that saying the words “I am pregnant” would cause me to experience a broken heart and fall into a deep depression?
After telling her that I was pregnant, my daughter’s father insisted that I have an abortion, even asking me to give my daughter up for adoption. I repeatedly said no, but that didn’t stop him. Then he turned to emotional abuse and reminded me how excited my life was at the time.
I was under so much stress during pregnancy, all I could do was eat and sleep. After giving my baby’s father a few words about how my life was already in bad shape and bringing another child into this world would only delay my struggle, I agreed to have an abortion.
For the first time in a long time, my daughter’s father and I were sitting in the abortion clinic having a normal conversation like we used to do before we got pregnant. I was at peace with the decision to abort my baby and move on with my life.
As I made my way around the back and into a room to prepare for the procedure, I felt at peace, which was strange because I had never had an abortion before, so why was I so calm?
The doctor came into the room and looked at the baby and how far along he was on the monitor. I saw the doctor take a second look at the screen and then he asked, “Do you really want to go through with this?” Why do you say that? was my answer. “You are 17 weeks pregnant, not 12, so if you go through this procedure, it will be a two-day procedure and it will cost $ 5,000.” I jumped off the table and started putting my clothes back on. I advised the doctor that I would not go through with the procedure because deep down I really wanted to stay with my baby, I was very stressed about my dad. I went out to the waiting room and gave the money back to my father and told him I’m sorry dude, I’m not going to have an abortion.
Here are some tips to help you if you feel pressured to abort your child:
1. Know what you want. If you want to stay with your baby, defend your position and stay with your baby.
2. Never make an emotional decision under pressure that you later regret. Ask your baby’s father to give you time and space in time on what he wants and what is best for you and your child, and use that time to clarify the things you want to do regarding your unborn baby.
3. Accept that you are leaving and not being a part of your child’s life if you decide to stay with your baby.
4. Know that as you take care of your children, God will take care of you.
5. Form a circle of support to help her on her motherhood journey.
To conclude, never let someone pressure you into making a decision you don’t want to make. Stay with your baby. The Bible says, “Children are a blessing from the Lord.” Celebrate your blessing and let God take care of the rest.